First let me say I have a diverse collection of cars and thus am on a number of car forums. Something that had always stood out to me was the number of females on this forum. It truly set this forum apart from others I participate on.
From my perspective I never recall any woman asking a stupid question. There may at times have been naive questions, but those are not gender specific and common to every aspect of the human being (male or female). I remember that you were a frequent poster who often spoke with enthusiasm about being a Pinto owner. It was rather noticeable when you and the other woman posters seemed to drop off the forum. With the exception of one particular poster who seemed to speak his mind on a regular basis, I don't recall posters making comments derogatory to woman - on a regular basis. And, even that particular poster stated he was "poor" with the words he chose. I don't offer that as an excuse for him but only to say he had some form of of a conscience - even if way after the fact. If it is any value I don't recall him posting here in some time and assume he has left.
This is not my website, nor am I an administrator. Regardless, I think we all need to be considerate towards each other. And sometimes that includes overlooking a persons shortcomings. Too often on ALL the forums I belong people seem to want to display their knowledge more than they want to help one another. On the other hand people need to not be overly sensitive. When I reply to "Turbo 2.3" questions (especially in earlier cars) I come on rather strong implying, "Do you know what you are getting into?" But, I do that because unless the person has the experience with the needed tools, access to the parts, and the time there is a far greater likelihood they will wind up with a pile of parts and a disassembled Pinto than a completed turbo car. In my mind I am being considerate to the potential end result. And in a number of cases the individual was likely thankful they left their Pinto stock, or bought a Turbo Subaru etc.
Other times people will take the "Give you a fish, you eat today. Teach you to fish, eat for a lifetime perspective." But, depending upon the presentation.. ., and or reception it can come across as not helping the immediate need. The initial reply was to "teach" (with good intent) and the recipient took it was being "lectured to" with them having time constraints that only a quick, simple answer would have sufficed. Neither party was understanding the other.
I'm sorry that you and other woman have felt unwelcome. It shouldn't be that way. Have you and the others expressed this to Scott or Dwayne? If I may offer this advice, men deal in specifics (He said..., He did..."). In your post you use the words "feel/feeling" three times (combined). Men generally don't "go there" in a dispute. And, being that the forum is likely 98%+ male... .
Lastly, I don't think you and I have ever had points of contention. But, if I've ever been offensive my apology.
Tom