I do not have a XR4Ti wiring diagram. On a 87 turbocoupe and the 76 Pinto, the two little wires to the starter solenoid relay's small terminal are both R/LB. One goes to the key switch (start position) via either the clutch switch or the auto neutral switch. The other one goes to the TFI module (or to the ignition module on the original 76 harness). There probably are other small wires on the starter solenoid relay's large terminal supplying battery voltage to the electrical system.
If the TFI module goes bad, you will not have spark. You said you replaced "it" with a spare. If just the TFI module was replaced, there is still the possibility that the Hall effect sensor in the distributor went bad. I had this sensor die on my 86 Mustang and it definitely kills the spark. To replace this sensor I believe you have to pull the distributor, from what I have read.
You said you had "no current to the coil". I assume you meant "no voltage to the coil" (DC current meters are expensive). With the key switch in run, you should have almost full positive battery voltage on both of the coil's small terminals. The TFI module works via switching the ground to the coil. If no voltage here, check up stream to the key switch, fuses, and fuse links.
Grounding unknown wires to see what happens scares me and could damage things. Please use a volt ohm meter to trace wires (these are cheap). If the wire was hooked up inside the car when you grounded it and you tried to start the car, it most likely blew a fuse or melted a fusible link.